How to heal after you've been deeply hurt?

You must have heard the saying: 

"freedom is the only condition for happiness". 

Ah! That feeling of knowing the person who hurt us is going to receive some form of punishment for the hurt they caused us. It can be very gratifying right?

Forgiving someone who has hurt us deeply in a relation largely depends on the ability to talk through the hurt and finding new ways for our spouse to admit their faults and apologizing to us. This helps the relationship grow and gives strength to the love. Often it is important for couples to fight and grow through the deepest of hurts, which further strengthens the love (in most cases). This helps the couple learn new ways to handle situations that would have become stumbling blocks in their lives.
The same case applies to the lessons we learn from other experiences in life which in turn arms us with buffer to deal with future occurrences.

Although things do not always turn out the way expect, as our significant other may not feel the need, or be physically present to tender the apology we seek. In this situation, one does not have to hang on to the situation. The better option would be to forgive, in-spite of the absence of remorse or apology. Move on from the hurt, not because of the other party, but for your sake.
This is more for yourself than for the other person. For your sanity.

I have had a relationship with someone who constantly cheated on me, and somehow felt she was smart enough to cover it all up without me ever figuring any of it out. To people like her, if you never catch them 'red handed' or in a compromising situation, they can simply tell you your suspicions are baseless and they can be vindicated. No proof, no fowl right?  Even when I found certain suspicious items in her possession, and she could not explain how she came about them. Or was it the condoms I would find in her bag (when we were not having sex), she always found a way to make up stories about them. But I did not feel the need to dwell on it, as I knew she was never going to admit the truth anyway. So it was hopeless to seek remorse from her. 
But did I hold on to unforgiveness? Yes I did, and for a while. Until months later when I realized the true reason for my depression was not the hurt she caused me, but mainly the unforgiving spirit I carried on with me. Which I desperately needed to let go off, and consciously seek out ways to move on. 
Of course the relationship ended! 

It is important not to pretend. Sometimes we rush past the feelings that are present in an attempt to appear uncaring (unhurt, really), or like we have it handled.  Getting back on the horse is great and all, but let us first acknowledge that it hurt when we were knocked off!

The point is not to compare the experience we are having to how others would react; it is to self-process and move forward.

Forgiveness is a choice for self You have to think about the effect it has on you, and make firm resolutions to forgive and move on. This is not about forgiveness. It's not about taking the high road, either. Those options both involve the other person. This about us, and what we want.
This is not to say you should ignore the way the hurt made you feel, no. Instead, embrace the feeling, and let it weigh you down. Cry if you must,, and keep at it until you no longer feel pain. And then revaluate where you might have gone wrong in the relationship, and reasons why certain things were allowed to happen. This way, you pick up strings of lessons to help you become a better, happier person.

When we look for resolution from the outside world, we are also seeking acknowledgement. Learning to self-acknowledge is a wonderful gift to give ourselves.

Always remind yourself not to remain in the negative circle the hurt created, and step into a positive circle, before reacting to the situation. This not only saves unnecessary stress, but helps you maintain a certain level of self respect and decorum.

Have you been deeply hurt? How are you dealing with it?