The 'Gold Digger' antidote
Is there anything wrong with a lady expecting a man to be financially capable of providing for her?
This is question raised on "Sharing Life Issues" tonight.
The first half of the show was froth with men calling out the women for their financial misgivings and apparent quest to target their bank accounts.
A guy wants a lady who can cook, clean, give him children, and take care of the home, be physically endowed...
A lady wants a man who can provide for her and kids, and be a good husband to her.
These seem to be the required qualities from both genders, right? Well, why does the society immediately label ladies who are clear - minded and well informed enough to articulate the italicized needs above. Such women earn the title "Gold digger", "materialistic" titles.
She wants to get married to a man who can provide for all her needs, and she is immediately labelled a gold digger? That honestly makes me question what it truly means for a man to provide adequately for his wife and children. Is that not the basic responsibility of a man? 1 Timothy 5:8 says: "But if anyone does not provide for his relatives , and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever".
I'm not intentionally trying to defend women and their gender rights. I am trying to view issues objectively, and not from an angle of bias or prejudice. As some would easily perk up double standards in this matter. Wanting a woman who can cook and clean and not have expectations from her man would be absurd. Almost like asking one to eat whatever they are presented, without having a choice or stating it thereof.
Of course it will be totally wrong for that to be the primary reason why a woman would fall in love with a man - his money. We should find ways to make love present in many aspects of our lives, regardless of whether we choose to acknowledge it or not, and it is because of this that love should never be underestimated in its importance to our overall happiness and well being.
It could be seen as misplaced priorities and expectations, if the need for wealth should take precedence or when it becomes a criteria for love. This is the cause of many divorces these days, as this prompts most to go the route of drafting prenuptial agreements.
Are men becoming lazy these days, or am I too old fashioned or naive to be asking these questions?
Have you been labelled a Gold Digger for verbally stating you want to date a rich guy? As a guy, do you have a problem with this?
This is question raised on "Sharing Life Issues" tonight.
The first half of the show was froth with men calling out the women for their financial misgivings and apparent quest to target their bank accounts.
A guy wants a lady who can cook, clean, give him children, and take care of the home, be physically endowed...
A lady wants a man who can provide for her and kids, and be a good husband to her.
These seem to be the required qualities from both genders, right? Well, why does the society immediately label ladies who are clear - minded and well informed enough to articulate the italicized needs above. Such women earn the title "Gold digger", "materialistic" titles.
She wants to get married to a man who can provide for all her needs, and she is immediately labelled a gold digger? That honestly makes me question what it truly means for a man to provide adequately for his wife and children. Is that not the basic responsibility of a man? 1 Timothy 5:8 says: "But if anyone does not provide for his relatives , and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever".
I'm not intentionally trying to defend women and their gender rights. I am trying to view issues objectively, and not from an angle of bias or prejudice. As some would easily perk up double standards in this matter. Wanting a woman who can cook and clean and not have expectations from her man would be absurd. Almost like asking one to eat whatever they are presented, without having a choice or stating it thereof.
Of course it will be totally wrong for that to be the primary reason why a woman would fall in love with a man - his money. We should find ways to make love present in many aspects of our lives, regardless of whether we choose to acknowledge it or not, and it is because of this that love should never be underestimated in its importance to our overall happiness and well being.
Are men becoming lazy these days, or am I too old fashioned or naive to be asking these questions?
Have you been labelled a Gold Digger for verbally stating you want to date a rich guy? As a guy, do you have a problem with this?
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